I eventually overcame the disappointment of not being able to climb all the way up the first hill of the day and the short sharp lumpy climbs continued until respite came with a steep descent into the pretty coastal town of Looe. First lunch was taken just outside Torpoint. Climbing out of Looe had been tough but after about five miles there was a descent and the hills were less exacting until we reached Tor Point. After lunch my mind returned to trying to fathom out what on earth Jesus was on about with regard to family relationships.
“…a man’s foes will be those of his own household. He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me … he who does not take up his cross and follow me is not worthy of me.” (Matthew 10: 36 – 39). I recalled that St Luke’s version of this saying is even stronger and more obviously shocking – “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sister, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me, cannot be my disciple.” (Luke 14: 26 – 27). So, what’s happened to “love your neighbour as yourself” and “love your enemies” not to mention breaking the commandment “Honour your father and your mother”? I remember once, whilst looking at a crucifix, having a sudden outburst of emotion which culminated in my muttering under my breath, “You ask too much!”
I concluded that the entire business can be summed up in the word “identity”. It seemed to me that there comes a point in life where you have to decide who or what defines you or, to put it in phycological terms, what do you internalise from your surroundings which you end up imagining is the essence of your personhood. I concluded that Jesus was saying don’t let even those nearest and dearest to you define who you are rather find out for yourself and then live out your own identity with all the consequences of what that will inevitably mean; put briefly live it as fully as possible and pay the cost. That is where the bearing your own cross comes in. In my reading of the story of Jesus as it is set out in the four New Testament Gospels that’s exactly what He did and that is what He requires of anyone claiming to be a follower of His. That put in context my angry outburst to the crucifix. It is very difficult to be yourself before God, it is easier to run with the crowd but if you do that you will lose your very essence, your very soul.
We met up with the support team at Yelverton for second lunch. This was a familiar town as we stopped in the same place on the 2013 ride. On that ride we had all been dreading what came next, a very long haul up to Princetown which looked particularly horrendous on the stage map in Nick Mitchell’s book. However, our experience on that trip was that the climb, whilst long, was not as bad as we had anticipated. I found that the first part of the climb was the worst and caused me the most difficulty, after that I was able to ride the rest of the way. So, this time part of the team at least knew what we were in for and so having had a toilet break and stuffed ourselves full of carbs we set off having decided we would all do the climb at our own pace and meet up again with Julia and Jo at the top of the climb.
Once I began to ride the less exacting parts of the climb up to Princetown I was able to begin to muse again. I have a suspicion that God never intended our upbringing to be perfect. We might all wish that like Adam and Eve in the Genesis story we lived in some kind of Garden of Eden, a paradise where everything is laid on and we don’t have to struggle, but if we lived in that kind of world we would never grow up and would be condemned to a life of perpetual infancy. It seemed to me that day that the struggles for identity begin at home and extend outward into the wider world. We, like Adam and Eve in the story, discover that once we lose our innocence life is tough and not everyone wants to, or perhaps can, engage in the necessary costly struggle of becoming who they can truly be. There is however no way back to Eden, an angel with a flaming sword bars the way.
I finally made it up the climb and found the others slumped on the pavement outside a brick building taking in the brilliant sunshine on one of the highest peaks of Dartmoor. The Chiselled Whippet was ready for the off as usual and had persuaded the other testosterone fuelled males on the team that it was, “all downhill from here!” “Except for the uphill bits!” I replied. I remembered the last lap of this day’s ride from last time and did not share Ollie’s somewhat over optimistic view of the difficulties of the last fifteen miles. The others took off and Lizzie joined me for the last leg of the day. We rode together across the moor which was bathed in golden, late afternoon sunshine, past sheep and wild ponies; glorious, but certainly with as many ups as there were downs.